EUREEKA!!!
i think we may be good, here is what i found. you need to go through bluetooth, as the IR is just not worth the pain in the ass (especially if you're trying to control a farther away computer from your couch, which is what i need), and internet is out of hte question because dial up sucks. sooooo,
you make your computer bluetooth, so it can recognize your phone. units were around 40$ at radio shack.
then, you install one of the following programs, and voila! WMP remote (and remote for things such as powerpoint, etc).
http://mytreo.net/downloads/details-...LibertyControl http://www.salling.com/Clicker/windows/
i have not tried these yet, as my car is messed up and i need to get that bluetooth piece for my pc, but will post if i decide that it's worth the $ (~$40 for the bluetooth eye plus 15/20 for one of the programs)